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FOSTERING AND ADOPTION

1 Comment 18th August 2010

ITV 1 HAS A PROGRAMME ABOUT THE SHORTAGE OF FOSTER PARENTS FOR KIDS NEEDING CARE – BUT THE REALITY IS THAT WE ARE LOOKING AT THE CARE AND WELLBEING OF CHILDREN IS A SHABBY ' JUMBLE SALE' WAY AND ALL CHILDRENS CARE SHOUDL BE TAKEN AWAY FROM THE LOCAL COUNCILS AND PUT INTO A NATIONAL BODY TO DELIVER.

 

HERE IS THE PROBLEM:  PERSON A IS A WORKING WOMAN – SINGLE – WITH A HOUSE AND NO MORTGAGE – SIX YEARS OF YOUTH WORKER EXPERIENCE – AND TEN YEARS OF MANAGEMENT WORK WHICH SHE CAN GO BACK TO, AND WANTS A CHILD. IN ORDER FOR HER TO ADOPT SHE MUST GO THROUGH OVER 6-12 MONTHS ASSESSMENT, AND IN THAT ASSESSMENT SOCIAL WORKERS HAVE ON REPEATED OCCASSIONS UNDERMINED THE APPLICATION BECAUSE OF NORMAL AND NATURAL THINGS – LIKE HAVING AN ELDERLY MOTHER (WHO IS NOT DISABLED OR MENTALLY CHALLENGED) – OR THE FACT THEY ARE SINGLE OR …ETC

 

HOWEVER A FOSTER TEENAGE GIRL GOT PREGNANT BY A LAD WHO IS NOW IN PRISION AFTER SEVERAL DIFFERENT CAR STEALING ACTS AS A TEENAGER.  SHE SHOWED – AS OVER 50% OF MOTHERS FROM CARE DO – SIGNS OF REJECTING HER BABY IMMEDIATELY.

 

THE SOCIAL SERVICES PUT THE CHILD WITH THE GRANDMOTHBER – WHO IS IN FACT THE MOTHE ROF THE SON – IN A COUNCIL HOUSE WHICH GRANNIE HAS HER OTHER SON AND TEENAGE GIRLFIRNED AND THEIR NEW BABY AND HER OTHER CHILD OF 14, A THREE BED COUNCIL HOUSE.  GRANNIE WHO CREATED THE TWO SONS AND ONE DAUGBHTER THROUGH THREE DIFFERENT ABSENT FATHERS BECAUSE SHE "WANTED KIDS" IS QUITE CLEARLY ABLE TO WIPE A CHILDS BOTTOM BUT NOT ABLE TO BRING UP GOOD AND SENSIBLE ADULTS WHO THINK ABOUT USING CONTRACEPTION AND IN FACT THE STATE SUBSIDY OF GRANNIE FOR THE WHOLE OF HER LIFE PRODUCING BADLY BROUGHT UP CHILDREN HAS MEANT SHE EVEN ASKED SOCIAL SERVCIES TO GIVER HER A  FOSTERING PAYMENT – WHICH THEY REFUSED BECAUSE AS A GRANNIE SHE IS NOT PAID.

 

tHIS BABY – ACCORDING TO THE MOST MODERN NEUROSCIENCE AND AUTHORS SUCH AS SUTHERLAND, BERRY, AND SO FORTH, SHOULD THRIVE INTO BEING A STABLE AND GOOD CITIZEN IF IN THE VERY EARLY STAGES OF THE BABY'S DEVELOPMENT SOMEONE WAS GIVEN THE BABY WHO IS A GOOD PARENT.  INSTEAD DUE TO LEGISLATION DEMANDING THE NATURAL PARENT IS GIVEN ALL THE CHANCES TO RAISE THE CHILD AND BECAUSE THERIR IS NO JUDGEMENTAL ATTITUDE TO THE BABY=-MACHINE-DOLE SCROUNGER GRANNIE, THE STATE SEES IT AS PREFERABLE TO HAND THE BABY TO GRANNIE – THAT IS UNTIL OF COURSE GRANNIE PRODUCES ANOTHER CAR STEALING TEENAGER  FRON THIS BABY.   GRANNIE THINKS SHE IS A GREAT PARENT – SOCIAL SERVICES GET A CHEAP OPTION – BUT THE SOLVENT SANE AND LOVING GOOD PARENT IS TOLD THAT THERE ARENT THAT MANY BABIES AVAILABLE.

 

THE STATE WILL HAVE A BILL FOR NOT ONLY GRANNY AND HER BROOD OF NE'R DO WELLS BUT ALSO THE STATE WILL PAY FOR THE BABY TO DO SO, AND THIS ISNT WHAT NYE BEVAN OR THE ORIGIANL HUMANIST MOVEMENT WANTED OF STATE HELP TO THE POOR OR NEEDY.  THERE USED TO BE THE IDEA THAT A HANDOUT WAS IN ORDER THAT THE PERSON RECOGNISED AN OBLIGATION TO THE SOCIEITY THAT HELPED, WHEREAS GRANNY, HER TEENAGER CAR STEALING SON AND HIS CHILD, SHOW NO INTENTION OF DOING ANYTHING MORE THAN LIVING OFF A HANDOUT AND COMPLAINING TGHE SOCIAL WORKERS ARE C+++S.  tHE FACT IS EVEN A SOCIAL WORKER OF EXPERIENCE WOULD AGREE – OFF THE RECORD – THAT WE SHOULD TAKE CHILDREN FROM THESE PEOPLE AND GIVE THE BABYS IMMEDIATELY FOR ADOPTION IN ORDER TO GIVE THE BABY A CHANCE – AND ITS THE COURTS AND THE PUBLIC WHO GET SWEPT UP IN THE ODD PERSON WHO BLEETS THE SOCIAL SERVICES TOOK THEIR KIDS AWAY.  Talking to happily grown adult adopted children and askign gthem if they would have preferred to have been brought up by their alcoholid, drug taking, or simply thick natural parents it is clear that once they met the real thing they were quite relieved not to have been.

Bring in a forced adoption for baby, on the grounds that if you do not do so then the damage caused to the child's neural system – brain damage basically – could have been avoided if the child was immediatgely adopted.

 

Ironically however the good parent who is childless – is given a hard time proving their ability to look after or care for a child, whilst the awful and incompetent natural parent is given every opportunity to mentallly retard their baby – without the same limitations of a judgement call.

 

If you judge prospective adoptive parents as stringently then why are so many baby's still being brought up in awful natural familes who would not ever meet the same levels that adoptive parents have to.

 

The waste of time is of course that the adoptive parents get their time wasted because social services are afraid of a placement going wrong – and they will always go wrong for 10% of adoptions anyway.  Once again we have lost the point of the whole thing.  Get the child with good people – as soon as possible as they are born – and you raise a good adult, and socieity.  Leave a child with bad natural parents and the longer they are there the harder it will be for a good foster parent/adoptive parent to help change the neural circuitry of the baby, and enable them to challenge the brain damage caused by natural parents.

 

We all know that it isnt poverty that causes an adult to be damaged but damaged parents, yet there are thousands of babies being brought up by people who would not pass the adoption application process, and thousands of people who get put off by the arduous and labourous time wasting of the adoption process – who would be better at raising our society.

 

instead the child is put with a family who are judged ;good; foster parents – that is someone who has children of their own – and the child then develops as the add-on to the family and told frequently that this foster placement is not stable and will not last so that when they are moved on or back to mum and dad – the child is not shocked.

Then this instability and brain damage produce adults who produce babies – and the cycle of creating generation after generation of damaged children is continued. 

It is time we did say – this is good parenting and this is a bad parenting – and stop hiring and training social workers who actually dont really have the powers to change that at all.

 

 

Why does this matter?

Then this instability and brain damage in the young infant is now scientifically proven that unless you give good parenting to a baby in the very early stages of thier life you will simply produce adults who produce babies damaged and emotionally stunted and volatile as themselves – and the cycle of creating generation after generation of damaged children – and now ASBO ADULTS  is continued. 

It is time we did say – this is good parenting and this is a bad parenting – and all parents are told that if they cannot focus on good parenting and if they never had the emotional stability and make up themselves to provide this then they should not be allowed to keep babies or raise theml

 

judge natural parents by the same lines as adoptive and we would have no parents at all as the adoption standard is illogically beyond a reality check and full of ludicrous loopholes, and time wasting.

 

years ago you were considered special because you wanted to adopt, now you are treated like trash by the bad social worker.

 

 

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One Response to FOSTERING AND ADOPTION

  1. yasmin jackson says:

    you cannot take babies as the mother was in care – that was a reason mine was took – sill fighting for her 3 years later i wont let her down and they snatch more every day to fufil the needs of people like you who believe you are better – nothing is better han he natural parens if they inend the best for the child – because my childhood was crap does no mean i will give my little girl the same – it should be harder to adopt not easier – i believe in gods will – if he wanted you to have a child he would give you one .

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