Compulsory paternity tests

With statistics as high as 1 in 20 fathers not being the biological father of their child and the implimentation of a DNA database I think it's time we began DNA testing all fathers.  This will help prevent  storys such as

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-10845112

The law would help protect mothers, fathers and children and in most cases cement the bond between father and child and in 5% of cases allow the parner to choose or not to choose to undertake the task of raising a child that is not biologicly his own. 

Why is this idea important?

With statistics as high as 1 in 20 fathers not being the biological father of their child and the implimentation of a DNA database I think it's time we began DNA testing all fathers.  This will help prevent  storys such as

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-10845112

The law would help protect mothers, fathers and children and in most cases cement the bond between father and child and in 5% of cases allow the parner to choose or not to choose to undertake the task of raising a child that is not biologicly his own. 

Naming of unmarried/absent fathers on birth certificates for geneology reasons.

I was recently unable to name a father on my childs birth certificate when registering his birth, as the father is both not married to me, and absent from the childs life. At present, if a father's name is to be entered on the birth certificate, current law requires either; the father to be married to the mother, be present at the time of registration or provide the registrar with documentation to express his wish to be included on the certificate in his absence. As a result many children who's biological father is absent are being left with the indignity of having a blank space on their birth certificate where the father's name should be. This law is creating future generations of children who will effectively be eliminated from geneological, anthropological and historical records to a greater or lesser extent.

At present parents stated on birth certificates are directly linked to parental responsibility and as a result the law is in place to protect men from having all the implications of this linked to them if the child is not biologically theirs. However if the system was altered in a way that eliminated this problem, whilst still giving children the right to have a father named at their birth, both sides would be better served. For example a birth certificate as well as a 'parental responsibility certificate': the former for the purpose of geneology ect and the latter being linked to the current laws for birth certificates.

As parents have to provide no identificaton upon registering a birth under the current laws the process is already open the a level of abuse. For example, in my case I registered my child's birth with my partner (who is not the biological parent of my child) present. I was asked if I was the mother and then my partner was asked if he was the father. We explained that my partner was not here to register his name, being honest people. Yet it would have been very easy for him to have just replied 'yes' and the registrar would have been non the wiser. With research suggesting upward of 20 percent of UK residents having incorect parentage registered on their birth certificates surely this system is ready for a review?   

Why is this idea important?

I was recently unable to name a father on my childs birth certificate when registering his birth, as the father is both not married to me, and absent from the childs life. At present, if a father's name is to be entered on the birth certificate, current law requires either; the father to be married to the mother, be present at the time of registration or provide the registrar with documentation to express his wish to be included on the certificate in his absence. As a result many children who's biological father is absent are being left with the indignity of having a blank space on their birth certificate where the father's name should be. This law is creating future generations of children who will effectively be eliminated from geneological, anthropological and historical records to a greater or lesser extent.

At present parents stated on birth certificates are directly linked to parental responsibility and as a result the law is in place to protect men from having all the implications of this linked to them if the child is not biologically theirs. However if the system was altered in a way that eliminated this problem, whilst still giving children the right to have a father named at their birth, both sides would be better served. For example a birth certificate as well as a 'parental responsibility certificate': the former for the purpose of geneology ect and the latter being linked to the current laws for birth certificates.

As parents have to provide no identificaton upon registering a birth under the current laws the process is already open the a level of abuse. For example, in my case I registered my child's birth with my partner (who is not the biological parent of my child) present. I was asked if I was the mother and then my partner was asked if he was the father. We explained that my partner was not here to register his name, being honest people. Yet it would have been very easy for him to have just replied 'yes' and the registrar would have been non the wiser. With research suggesting upward of 20 percent of UK residents having incorect parentage registered on their birth certificates surely this system is ready for a review?   

To amend the law which automatically gives Parental Responsibility to mothers

To restore the civil liberty of fathers, where their name was entered onto their child’s Birth Certificate prior to 01/12/2003, so that they automatically receive Parental Responsibility for that child (as they would have done if their child was born after 01/12/2003).

Why is this idea important?

To restore the civil liberty of fathers, where their name was entered onto their child’s Birth Certificate prior to 01/12/2003, so that they automatically receive Parental Responsibility for that child (as they would have done if their child was born after 01/12/2003).

equal parenting

The law which allows a woman to leave the marital home for no good reason, taking the child or children with her and refusing the father contact should be abolished.

It is an anti-social law and grossly unfair contributing to broken families. Children deprived of their loving father lose a valuable contribution to their lives, do not usually do so well at school and grow up with an unbalanced view of life. Responsibility of a child's upbringing should be shared equally as is the law in other countries.

Put this right now !.

Why is this idea important?

The law which allows a woman to leave the marital home for no good reason, taking the child or children with her and refusing the father contact should be abolished.

It is an anti-social law and grossly unfair contributing to broken families. Children deprived of their loving father lose a valuable contribution to their lives, do not usually do so well at school and grow up with an unbalanced view of life. Responsibility of a child's upbringing should be shared equally as is the law in other countries.

Put this right now !.

Equal Rights for Fathers

In the event of separation/divorce, joint residency should be the norm rather than the exception. Under current rules, it is absurd that a father may have to still pay child maintenance to the mother even if the children have more overnight stays with him because historically the mother has been the one in receipt of child allowance (the Child Support Agency use this to determine who the resident parent is and therefore who pays (or not) child maintenance).

Why is this idea important?

In the event of separation/divorce, joint residency should be the norm rather than the exception. Under current rules, it is absurd that a father may have to still pay child maintenance to the mother even if the children have more overnight stays with him because historically the mother has been the one in receipt of child allowance (the Child Support Agency use this to determine who the resident parent is and therefore who pays (or not) child maintenance).

Rewriting family law to give parents equal rights

Family law is a disgrace and an injustice to thousands of children and their parents.  This must be addressed to give parents equal rights over their children.  Currently many parents lose contact with their children as a result of absurd legislation and a judiciary that is ignorant of the outcomes of their decisions.  The family is an essential element of society and is being totally undermined by the law which serves to divide families and generate hardship for many parents – hardly working in the best interests of children as is claimed.

The Child Support Agency is totally inefficient, the staff intrusive and offensive.  Agencies such as CAFCASS are not acting in the interests of children at all and help to split families.

Major overhaul of the law is needed, not tinkering at the margins.  The idea that grandparents should be considered more fully is laughable given the fact that parents are often divided from their children and the law does nothing to help.

Why is this idea important?

Family law is a disgrace and an injustice to thousands of children and their parents.  This must be addressed to give parents equal rights over their children.  Currently many parents lose contact with their children as a result of absurd legislation and a judiciary that is ignorant of the outcomes of their decisions.  The family is an essential element of society and is being totally undermined by the law which serves to divide families and generate hardship for many parents – hardly working in the best interests of children as is claimed.

The Child Support Agency is totally inefficient, the staff intrusive and offensive.  Agencies such as CAFCASS are not acting in the interests of children at all and help to split families.

Major overhaul of the law is needed, not tinkering at the margins.  The idea that grandparents should be considered more fully is laughable given the fact that parents are often divided from their children and the law does nothing to help.

Stop Mothers divorcing their children from Fathers and Grandparents.

It is now well known in the Western world that most custodial parents of divorced children cause these children to have Parental Alienation Syndrome.  It is so well known that books have been written about it you can buy on Amazon.  It is well known that 50% of children lose touch with their absent parent after divorce.  What is not realised is why these children become divorced.  Their mothers use various tactics which, even when the Courts recognise it, nothing is done about this child abuse.  Judges will threaten the mother with jail when they redefine access for the umpteenth time but they will never carry out their threat as it would show up the Court's bad custody decision.  Make it mandatory on Judges that, if they see this child abuse, often shown by having the absent parent applying to redefine access which is breaking down frequently, then the Judges must jail the Mother (who it usually is) and turn over custody to the Father, with no judicial leeway whatsoever.

Read about it from the report by Stan Hayward at www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm

Parrental Alienation Syndrome IS child abuse!

It is written in the Children Act 1989 that the claim of the Father is equal to the claim of the mother.  Since the OPEC countries hiked up the price of fuel; and therefore energy in general, in the late 1970's, most people know that you can no longer run a family on one parent as the wage earner.  Most families need both parents to work.  This is reflected in the 1989 Children Act.  However the Courts still, decades later, think that it is still the 1960's and award residence orders on the basis that it is the Father's role to be the breadwinner.  In the 21st century this is not true, with many wives earning more than the husband.  Yet still residence orders 91% are given to the mother.  It has moved towards reality by only a few percentage points – from 97% in the 1980's.

Clearly the Family Courts are blatently flouting the Statutory Law that the claim of the Father is equal to that of the Mother.

Once a child is off the breast there is nothing that a Mother can give that child that the Father cannot do better,  I make this claim on the basis that a Father's parenting is more CONSISTENT from day to day than most mothers' parenting, possibly because they are women whose oestrus cycle makes them feel different each day.

Most problems with young people and adults, whether in education or prison or probation services, are caused by inconsistent parenting.  I am a secondary teacher and see it every day.

I was a Registered Childminder for twelve years and none of the 250 children I brought up for other people ended up in the criminal justice system.  I taught parenting to dysfunctional families for Social Services during that time.  I was head hunted as a consultant to Suffolk Social Services to encourage men into primary care.  I was headhunted by the Probation Service too.

Forcing Judges in the Family Courts to obey Statutory Law as outlined above would have far reaching effects to the benefit of our society, see below.  This could possibly be done by sacking them if their results for residence orders are not within a few percentage points of 50%.  Full accountability!

Only then would our children recieve their statutory right to be brought up by the better parent.

Why is this idea important?

It is now well known in the Western world that most custodial parents of divorced children cause these children to have Parental Alienation Syndrome.  It is so well known that books have been written about it you can buy on Amazon.  It is well known that 50% of children lose touch with their absent parent after divorce.  What is not realised is why these children become divorced.  Their mothers use various tactics which, even when the Courts recognise it, nothing is done about this child abuse.  Judges will threaten the mother with jail when they redefine access for the umpteenth time but they will never carry out their threat as it would show up the Court's bad custody decision.  Make it mandatory on Judges that, if they see this child abuse, often shown by having the absent parent applying to redefine access which is breaking down frequently, then the Judges must jail the Mother (who it usually is) and turn over custody to the Father, with no judicial leeway whatsoever.

Read about it from the report by Stan Hayward at www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm

Parrental Alienation Syndrome IS child abuse!

It is written in the Children Act 1989 that the claim of the Father is equal to the claim of the mother.  Since the OPEC countries hiked up the price of fuel; and therefore energy in general, in the late 1970's, most people know that you can no longer run a family on one parent as the wage earner.  Most families need both parents to work.  This is reflected in the 1989 Children Act.  However the Courts still, decades later, think that it is still the 1960's and award residence orders on the basis that it is the Father's role to be the breadwinner.  In the 21st century this is not true, with many wives earning more than the husband.  Yet still residence orders 91% are given to the mother.  It has moved towards reality by only a few percentage points – from 97% in the 1980's.

Clearly the Family Courts are blatently flouting the Statutory Law that the claim of the Father is equal to that of the Mother.

Once a child is off the breast there is nothing that a Mother can give that child that the Father cannot do better,  I make this claim on the basis that a Father's parenting is more CONSISTENT from day to day than most mothers' parenting, possibly because they are women whose oestrus cycle makes them feel different each day.

Most problems with young people and adults, whether in education or prison or probation services, are caused by inconsistent parenting.  I am a secondary teacher and see it every day.

I was a Registered Childminder for twelve years and none of the 250 children I brought up for other people ended up in the criminal justice system.  I taught parenting to dysfunctional families for Social Services during that time.  I was head hunted as a consultant to Suffolk Social Services to encourage men into primary care.  I was headhunted by the Probation Service too.

Forcing Judges in the Family Courts to obey Statutory Law as outlined above would have far reaching effects to the benefit of our society, see below.  This could possibly be done by sacking them if their results for residence orders are not within a few percentage points of 50%.  Full accountability!

Only then would our children recieve their statutory right to be brought up by the better parent.

Reform of Family Law

A family legal system which fails to acknowledge fathers as having equal status with mothers fails to protect the best interests of children.

We need to "degender" the issue. There should be no presumption that one parent is better than the other. Sometimes the mother will be best, sometimes the father, hopefully both will be able to play an equal and meaningful roll.

We need to remove the notion that simply because one parent has been the child's prime carer that that parent is necessarily more able or more important than the other. The fact that that prime carer frequently prevents the other parent from having contacvt with the child or makes it as difficult as possible needs to be recognised and acknowledged. In such situations the courts allowing this situation to continue is often not acting in the child's best interest at all.

Legal costs are astronomical and this prevents many very willing fathers who wish to be involved with their children from having teh relationship which not only they but the child would like to enjoy.

Tens of thousands of pounds are spent by fathers (predominently) who do not have this kind of money because that is the level of importance they place on their children. 

You can't give anybody their childhood back, you can't give them back the time they have lost with their father growing up. We need to wake up and act NOW. Little wonder people resort to dressing up in super heroe costumes. I don't think that this neccesarily serves the cause well but my word, what else does one  do when nobody ever listens? This is an issue affecting thousands of very loving and capable fathers. PLEASE listen, please address these issues meaningfully. 

Why is this idea important?

A family legal system which fails to acknowledge fathers as having equal status with mothers fails to protect the best interests of children.

We need to "degender" the issue. There should be no presumption that one parent is better than the other. Sometimes the mother will be best, sometimes the father, hopefully both will be able to play an equal and meaningful roll.

We need to remove the notion that simply because one parent has been the child's prime carer that that parent is necessarily more able or more important than the other. The fact that that prime carer frequently prevents the other parent from having contacvt with the child or makes it as difficult as possible needs to be recognised and acknowledged. In such situations the courts allowing this situation to continue is often not acting in the child's best interest at all.

Legal costs are astronomical and this prevents many very willing fathers who wish to be involved with their children from having teh relationship which not only they but the child would like to enjoy.

Tens of thousands of pounds are spent by fathers (predominently) who do not have this kind of money because that is the level of importance they place on their children. 

You can't give anybody their childhood back, you can't give them back the time they have lost with their father growing up. We need to wake up and act NOW. Little wonder people resort to dressing up in super heroe costumes. I don't think that this neccesarily serves the cause well but my word, what else does one  do when nobody ever listens? This is an issue affecting thousands of very loving and capable fathers. PLEASE listen, please address these issues meaningfully.