Parents automatic joint custody to their children

Automatic Joint custody to children by the parents to ensure balance.  Both parents to have access rights to see their children (exept in exeptional circumstances of course).  Joint responsibility for their children including finance.  At the moment the Mother may receive money for her child but this is not always spent on the child.  Efforts should be made to stop the culture of having children (different fathers) to make a living or avoid going out to work.  Perhaps giving benefits in vouchers would be appropriate in some cases.  At the moment the Mother can control access to the child, very often this is abused and is damaging and very upsetting to the child.

The CSA are a collection agency only (their own words) they do not ensure the welfare of the child or even protect the child by ensuing the money they collect is used to help the child.

Why is this idea important?

Automatic Joint custody to children by the parents to ensure balance.  Both parents to have access rights to see their children (exept in exeptional circumstances of course).  Joint responsibility for their children including finance.  At the moment the Mother may receive money for her child but this is not always spent on the child.  Efforts should be made to stop the culture of having children (different fathers) to make a living or avoid going out to work.  Perhaps giving benefits in vouchers would be appropriate in some cases.  At the moment the Mother can control access to the child, very often this is abused and is damaging and very upsetting to the child.

The CSA are a collection agency only (their own words) they do not ensure the welfare of the child or even protect the child by ensuing the money they collect is used to help the child.

Stop Mothers divorcing their children from Fathers and Grandparents.

It is now well known in the Western world that most custodial parents of divorced children cause these children to have Parental Alienation Syndrome.  It is so well known that books have been written about it you can buy on Amazon.  It is well known that 50% of children lose touch with their absent parent after divorce.  What is not realised is why these children become divorced.  Their mothers use various tactics which, even when the Courts recognise it, nothing is done about this child abuse.  Judges will threaten the mother with jail when they redefine access for the umpteenth time but they will never carry out their threat as it would show up the Court's bad custody decision.  Make it mandatory on Judges that, if they see this child abuse, often shown by having the absent parent applying to redefine access which is breaking down frequently, then the Judges must jail the Mother (who it usually is) and turn over custody to the Father, with no judicial leeway whatsoever.

Read about it from the report by Stan Hayward at www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm

Parrental Alienation Syndrome IS child abuse!

It is written in the Children Act 1989 that the claim of the Father is equal to the claim of the mother.  Since the OPEC countries hiked up the price of fuel; and therefore energy in general, in the late 1970's, most people know that you can no longer run a family on one parent as the wage earner.  Most families need both parents to work.  This is reflected in the 1989 Children Act.  However the Courts still, decades later, think that it is still the 1960's and award residence orders on the basis that it is the Father's role to be the breadwinner.  In the 21st century this is not true, with many wives earning more than the husband.  Yet still residence orders 91% are given to the mother.  It has moved towards reality by only a few percentage points – from 97% in the 1980's.

Clearly the Family Courts are blatently flouting the Statutory Law that the claim of the Father is equal to that of the Mother.

Once a child is off the breast there is nothing that a Mother can give that child that the Father cannot do better,  I make this claim on the basis that a Father's parenting is more CONSISTENT from day to day than most mothers' parenting, possibly because they are women whose oestrus cycle makes them feel different each day.

Most problems with young people and adults, whether in education or prison or probation services, are caused by inconsistent parenting.  I am a secondary teacher and see it every day.

I was a Registered Childminder for twelve years and none of the 250 children I brought up for other people ended up in the criminal justice system.  I taught parenting to dysfunctional families for Social Services during that time.  I was head hunted as a consultant to Suffolk Social Services to encourage men into primary care.  I was headhunted by the Probation Service too.

Forcing Judges in the Family Courts to obey Statutory Law as outlined above would have far reaching effects to the benefit of our society, see below.  This could possibly be done by sacking them if their results for residence orders are not within a few percentage points of 50%.  Full accountability!

Only then would our children recieve their statutory right to be brought up by the better parent.

Why is this idea important?

It is now well known in the Western world that most custodial parents of divorced children cause these children to have Parental Alienation Syndrome.  It is so well known that books have been written about it you can buy on Amazon.  It is well known that 50% of children lose touch with their absent parent after divorce.  What is not realised is why these children become divorced.  Their mothers use various tactics which, even when the Courts recognise it, nothing is done about this child abuse.  Judges will threaten the mother with jail when they redefine access for the umpteenth time but they will never carry out their threat as it would show up the Court's bad custody decision.  Make it mandatory on Judges that, if they see this child abuse, often shown by having the absent parent applying to redefine access which is breaking down frequently, then the Judges must jail the Mother (who it usually is) and turn over custody to the Father, with no judicial leeway whatsoever.

Read about it from the report by Stan Hayward at www.coeffic.demon.co.uk/pas.htm

Parrental Alienation Syndrome IS child abuse!

It is written in the Children Act 1989 that the claim of the Father is equal to the claim of the mother.  Since the OPEC countries hiked up the price of fuel; and therefore energy in general, in the late 1970's, most people know that you can no longer run a family on one parent as the wage earner.  Most families need both parents to work.  This is reflected in the 1989 Children Act.  However the Courts still, decades later, think that it is still the 1960's and award residence orders on the basis that it is the Father's role to be the breadwinner.  In the 21st century this is not true, with many wives earning more than the husband.  Yet still residence orders 91% are given to the mother.  It has moved towards reality by only a few percentage points – from 97% in the 1980's.

Clearly the Family Courts are blatently flouting the Statutory Law that the claim of the Father is equal to that of the Mother.

Once a child is off the breast there is nothing that a Mother can give that child that the Father cannot do better,  I make this claim on the basis that a Father's parenting is more CONSISTENT from day to day than most mothers' parenting, possibly because they are women whose oestrus cycle makes them feel different each day.

Most problems with young people and adults, whether in education or prison or probation services, are caused by inconsistent parenting.  I am a secondary teacher and see it every day.

I was a Registered Childminder for twelve years and none of the 250 children I brought up for other people ended up in the criminal justice system.  I taught parenting to dysfunctional families for Social Services during that time.  I was head hunted as a consultant to Suffolk Social Services to encourage men into primary care.  I was headhunted by the Probation Service too.

Forcing Judges in the Family Courts to obey Statutory Law as outlined above would have far reaching effects to the benefit of our society, see below.  This could possibly be done by sacking them if their results for residence orders are not within a few percentage points of 50%.  Full accountability!

Only then would our children recieve their statutory right to be brought up by the better parent.

Reform of Family Law

A family legal system which fails to acknowledge fathers as having equal status with mothers fails to protect the best interests of children.

We need to "degender" the issue. There should be no presumption that one parent is better than the other. Sometimes the mother will be best, sometimes the father, hopefully both will be able to play an equal and meaningful roll.

We need to remove the notion that simply because one parent has been the child's prime carer that that parent is necessarily more able or more important than the other. The fact that that prime carer frequently prevents the other parent from having contacvt with the child or makes it as difficult as possible needs to be recognised and acknowledged. In such situations the courts allowing this situation to continue is often not acting in the child's best interest at all.

Legal costs are astronomical and this prevents many very willing fathers who wish to be involved with their children from having teh relationship which not only they but the child would like to enjoy.

Tens of thousands of pounds are spent by fathers (predominently) who do not have this kind of money because that is the level of importance they place on their children. 

You can't give anybody their childhood back, you can't give them back the time they have lost with their father growing up. We need to wake up and act NOW. Little wonder people resort to dressing up in super heroe costumes. I don't think that this neccesarily serves the cause well but my word, what else does one  do when nobody ever listens? This is an issue affecting thousands of very loving and capable fathers. PLEASE listen, please address these issues meaningfully. 

Why is this idea important?

A family legal system which fails to acknowledge fathers as having equal status with mothers fails to protect the best interests of children.

We need to "degender" the issue. There should be no presumption that one parent is better than the other. Sometimes the mother will be best, sometimes the father, hopefully both will be able to play an equal and meaningful roll.

We need to remove the notion that simply because one parent has been the child's prime carer that that parent is necessarily more able or more important than the other. The fact that that prime carer frequently prevents the other parent from having contacvt with the child or makes it as difficult as possible needs to be recognised and acknowledged. In such situations the courts allowing this situation to continue is often not acting in the child's best interest at all.

Legal costs are astronomical and this prevents many very willing fathers who wish to be involved with their children from having teh relationship which not only they but the child would like to enjoy.

Tens of thousands of pounds are spent by fathers (predominently) who do not have this kind of money because that is the level of importance they place on their children. 

You can't give anybody their childhood back, you can't give them back the time they have lost with their father growing up. We need to wake up and act NOW. Little wonder people resort to dressing up in super heroe costumes. I don't think that this neccesarily serves the cause well but my word, what else does one  do when nobody ever listens? This is an issue affecting thousands of very loving and capable fathers. PLEASE listen, please address these issues meaningfully.